Dr. Phil

I try to watch Dr. Phil's show every day. There is always something to learn, and I am often surprised to find out that I am right when it comes to his assessment of how things are with people. There was a gal on today who was complaining about the fact that men "bail" on her because she is independent. At first, they are attracted to her because of that, but eventually, their egos get in the way and they evaporate. I can relate to that! **Paragraph breaks...again.** When I was a recently-divorced woman, back in the early '90s, I had too much to do to be bothered with relationships. I was establishing employment, finding a home in a new location, trying to make a secure life for my 12-year-old daughter. It was a huge job, and I knew that no one was going to take care of us but me. (Daddy Dearest was in the early throes of establishing a new life with his then-secretary. He didn't even ask to see Megan for two months after she and I moved out. I won't continue because it will just make me angry.) I also considered that Meg might be jealous of any relationship that I tried to make. I had too many other things to worry about! I made sure that I could handle whatever it was that needed to be handled. Did NOT want to depend on anyone who could potentially fail me again. I became an independent female. *I think I have lost relationships because I know myself. I am a caregiver. Inevitably, I end up caring for others, whether they need it or not...and have trouble accepting care from others. I'm a Covill Woman. Stuff happens. Then, too, I have worried about what man would accept me with my close connection to my daughter and grandchildren. The truth is, frankly, I don't care! I will spend the rest of my life as a single woman, and happy about it. Of course, that doesn't mean that I don't have friends...