Sunday, August 29, 2010

Continuation...

Addendum to yesterday's post. Read on, if you care...

I am aware that the family constellation over this past almost-year has changed and is somewhat hard to explain to people. Families of divorce frequently have issues that encompass hard feelings and issues that have nothing to do with the children. "He did this." "She did that." Blah, blah. Although I did NOT agree with my daughter's giving up custody of the children and/or moving so very many miles away from them and me, I recognized that they had a good father who had been active in their lives since Day One. In my grief from having them ripped away, I determined that THEY should not suffer any more than the circumstances demanded.

Grandpa Phil was the first to break through the shock with a sensitive email to me. Thereafter, we all met to talk about things. The message of that meeting was that we were all still family, regardless of the fact that our children were no longer together, and that our grandchildren should come to know that we are here for them, no matter what. Then there was the issue of Nathan and Kendra. What would my role be with them in the new constellation of things? Thankfully, I THINK we are okay. I have been welcomed into their new home as a helper. I don't always agree with what they do, but I respect the HUGE job of raising three children so close in age, and the special talents (that I don't have) to get it all done.

Thus, we spend holidays together, etc. I'm sure it is awkward for some. I am trying to accommodate everyone's schedule while not wishing to be taken advantage of. (Yes, I know I just ended that sentence with a preposition!) I just want what is best for my grandchildren. I think everyone else does, too...so there you are!

I just changed lightbulbs in the ceiling fan in my bedroom. They burn out fast, so I'm not looking for light for long...but it sure is bright in here now!!!!

Love to my followers. The robins are still here so summer isn't over...yet.

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